You Deserve a Village: Here’s What That Can Look Like
Let me say this first,
if you’re reading this as a new or expecting parent, I want you to take a deep breath and hear me clearly:
You don’t have to do this alone.
And more importantly, you’re not meant to.
There’s this quiet myth we carry around in modern parenting, that we’re supposed to be able to handle everything ourselves. That asking for help means we’re failing, or falling short, or not strong enough. But I want to tell you, from my heart and from my experience in dozens of homes as well as being a mom myself:
Asking for support isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.
What a “Village” Looks Like (Spoiler: It’s Not Always Grandma Next Door)
When I say you deserve a village, I don’t necessarily mean a house full of eager relatives and casseroles on rotation (though hey, if you have that—amazing!). The reality is, a village today might look very different than it used to. And that’s okay.
Here’s what it can look like:
A Newborn Care Specialist to help you navigate those long nights and longer days
A friend who folds your laundry without asking questions
A postpartum doula who makes you a smoothie and holds space for your tears
A therapist who reminds you that your mental health matters just as much as your baby's milestones
A partner who’s learning alongside you and showing up in the messy middle
A mom group where you can say “this is really hard” and no one tries to fix it
Your village doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to show up. It just has to give you a break, a moment to breathe, or a warm meal when you haven’t eaten anything but goldfish crackers all day.
Let People Help You: Even If It’s “Just” a Nap
One of the most common things I hear from parents I work with is:
“I didn’t know how much I needed this until I finally let someone help.”
Sometimes, it’s just one good nap. Or one full night of rest. One honest conversation where you say out loud, “I’m exhausted,” and someone doesn’t rush in with advice, they just listen.
And that kind of care? It changes everything.
You come back to your baby more present. More grounded. More yourself.
You’re Doing a Beautiful Job And You Don’t Have to Do It All
I know how fiercely you love your baby. I know how much you want to be everything, do everything, get it “right.” But I also know this:
You are allowed to be supported. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to need help and still be an incredible parent.
Let your village in. Whether it’s me, your best friend, a lactation consultant, your neighbor, or a grocery delivery person who saves you from one more trip out with a newborn—let them in.
You deserve that. Your baby deserves a parent who’s cared for, too.
If you ever need someone in your corner—someone who understands newborns, the 3 a.m. doubts, the joy, and the exhaustion—I’m here. Let’s build your village together!
